The gallery party was a glimpse of a community many seaside towns have lost. So was the snatch of band practice we overheard emanating from the window of the Sea Cadets' headquarters while taking an early evening stroll. More local bonhomie can be enjoyed at the annual oyster festival which runs from 24 to 30 July – a month with no 'r' in it, but this has been its date since Norman times, apparently, something to do with the low season being the best time for the hard-working townsfolk to take a day off, or the name day of St James of Compostela, the patron saint of scallops, depending on who you ask. Festival highlights include the 'Landing of the oysters', when the 2nd Whitstable Sea Scouts (another boys' group based in the town) haul the shells from the sea to be blessed by the clergy and presented to the mayor. There's also a local custom of grotter-building which is still going strong (a grotter being a hollow mound of sand or mud, decorated with oyster shells), as well as a town-wide parade of walking, talking oysters.
This is, we realised, a wonderfully eccentric place. The most famous restaurant in town is Wheelers Oyster Bar, established in 1856 and long and loudly acclaimed by food critics – and yet it only seats 12 diners, inside what is basically a living room made open to the public, complete with standard lamp, cherished knick-knacks, and a loo at the back that is accessed by going into the street and round the block. The formidable manageress, Delia Fitt, issued brief directions and I stumbled into the wrong garden in the rain; yet our dinner was outstanding, from a superb seasonal menu by chef Mark Stubbs. The look of rapture on Alex's face when he tasted the Guinness-battered oyster said it all. The pricing is scrupulously fair, with a main course – for example, monkfish osso bucco or smoked haddock three ways – costing £17 or £18, a simple fish soup £2.80, and a bowl of samphire, in season, £1. Alcohol is BYO. An unfathomable gem.