Is it okay to sleep with several people at once without telling them?

Question:- I'm single and dating. Is it OK to sleep with several people at once without telling them? I can't see I'm doing any harm but my monogamous friends say otherwise?

Juggling partners is the craze that's taken London by storm. Every thirtysomething singleton in town is screwing around in a mad last hurrah, hoping to sow those final wild oats before they decide to settle down.

A combination of laissez-faire sexual morality, internet dating and a plethora of commitmentphobes still stinging from their last relationship and wanting some casual fun in order to forget has made being single in London akin to being present at the last days of Sodom and Gomorrah.

But there's nothing immoral about sleeping with several people at once, provided none of them has been given the impression they're in a monogamous situation. You don't have to tell them that you're handing it out like candy, either.

In fact, you shouldn't, because it will only make the people you're dating feel worthless - especially if they're not getting as much as action as you are. But the chances are they're getting just as much, if not more.

The unspoken rule of modern dating is that until you've had that conversation in which you've both explicitly agreed to be exclusive, you are perfectly free to date and sleep with other people. It is a strictly don't-ask-don't-tell policy.

Men should bear in mind, however, that women will still feign outrage if they find out you're seeing someone else, even if they've entertained more men of late than Manchester United have all season.

Sleeping around gives you added confidence in your dating life: you know that you're desirable and that there are plenty of fish in the sea, which stops you putting too much pressure on your relationships to succeed.

On the downside, you risk becoming so jaded by casual sex that you can't appreciate a good thing when you get one. No one has a palate for gourmet cuisine if they've been gorging on junk beforehand.

In the long run, it's easier to be monogamous when you realise that promiscuity is just as boring.

And you'll have a much more realistic attitude towards relationships having sampled a broad range of what's out there and knowing which qualities really matter to you.