A surprise virtue in my second husband and patient restaurant companion, Reg, is an enthusiasm for Christmas rare in an adult. He loves it all — the plotting, the wrapping, the secrecy connected with presents and ‘especially leftovers and the tin of Quality Street’. More religiously inclined than I, he was delighted when I brought back finely carved unpainted wooden Nativity figures that I found in a Christmas market in Merano in northern Italy. In their stable knocked up by Yuric, the Polish handyman we have come to rely upon, posing neatly and quietly in the fireplace, they have replaced the tree, a move not altogether applauded by the grandchildren. But Yuric, I can tell, approves mightily.