Mandy, sister Message: "My little brother is 24 and serving with the Black Watch in Iraq. You feel helpless, and some people you meet don't understand what you are going through. I call it the W syndrome. Before the news you watch, worry, wait, weep. After the news you wish, wonder - who, when, where, why? - and weep some more. "Never been in this situation before and finding it very hard. Last saw my brother in June. What hurts the most is his kids don't understand. He has never seen his twin boys walking, and never taken his oldest to school. "My thoughts are with the families of the soldiers who died today. I can't imagine how they are feeling. Just bring the boys home."