If you ask me

My boyfriend has had a lot of one-night stands. He says they meant nothing and that I should be more concerned if they were serious relationships, but I disagree. How can I start to think his past isn't a problem?

Nupur, Leeds

Snob's view:

What is it you want from your relationship? If it's stability and fidelity, I agree with you. Does a leopard change its spots? Can you be sure that your partner is going to be happy with what you provide in the bedroom? If you want to cement a long-term, monogamous relationship with him, you need to agree on ground rules.

If it were within your morality, you could ask if he would be happy if you partook in similar, varied sexual behaviour?

My suggestion is that if you provide such variety and exciting and unknown pleasures in the bedroom, you will be in control of your partner's fantasies and his body will follow.

Snob