Suffering is what 21 Grams is all about. The suffering of Paul Rivers, a fortysomething philanderer whose heart is packing up and whose estranged wife, Mary (Charlotte Gainsbourg), wants to wring a terminal sperm donation out of him so she can bear his posthumous child. The suffering of Jordan, a multi-loser, whose frenzied church-going and Biblebeating cannot save him from accidental manslaughter. The suffering of Peck, a former cocaine addict, whose put-together, middle-class life ( architect husband, blonde children) is as easily deconstructed as a substandard flat pack.