On the surface, she has every A-List accessory available: the Hollywood marriage (to her Cruel Intentions co-star Ryan Phillippe), two children, Ava, five, and 15-month-old Deacon, a Bel Air home and her own production company. She credits Phillippe, who she married in 1999, and the children, with keeping her grounded. 'As cool as you think you are, when you have two children smashing cupcakes into your dress before you go out for a premiere, you don't feel so cool. It's a great equaliser. Everybody can understand what it's like to be a mum.'