He is not gay, though, but like a lot of men, he did ask himself some questions when he was young. "When we are 18 or so we are forced to push our behaviour in order to be the leader of the group," he says. "But you have doubts. It happened to me but I quickly realised what I preferred." He was raised in Madrid, where his mother, Pilar, an actress, divorced his father, Carlos, a businessman, when Bardem was six. His brother and sister are also actors, but he thought he might be a painter and worked as an extra to pay for classes. He stripped as well, in a bar for a month or so. Once he even jumped out of a cake, naked, which must have been a pleasing sight, but acting took over. Pedro Almod - var gave him a part in High Heels in l991, and that was that.